My friends and I are breaking up. Not properly, of course, just in terms of physical distance. We’re 23, and moving about the world as we navigate the beginning of our careers (we hope!!!) But between London and Washington, Northern Ireland and Cambodia, we all know that our friendship will endure. Myself and two of my best gal pals, Amy and Lauren, met up at La Taverna to enjoy great Italian food, wine and a wind-down before all moving mayhem breaks loose. And then we got onto the topic…what exactly makes a friendship flourish? Cue the laughs…
You Must Always Celebrate Her Successes
One of my favourite memories of Lauren is when we went to collect our GCSE results. I collected mine before her and had done way better than I’d expected. Even though she was yet to get hers she was so, so, overjoyed at my results, and this is something that has continued in our friendship. We cheer each other on in everything, from new jobs to who has managed to eat the most. Spoiler. It’s always me. (On a side note I managed to achieve an extra A in my GCSE’s but I would like to point out that we both made an unexpected guest appearance in the smart people photograph.)
You Must Anticipate The Fat Day
Every time we plan an evening out, at least one of us will be having a ‘fat day.’ At its most basic level this involves spoiling any fun that the other two might be having. Let’s say, for arguments sake, it’s myself who’s having the fat day. I’ll be looking at Amy and Lauren and getting humpier and humpier at how great they look and how bloody frumpy I look in comparison. The way this works is simple. Whoever is in the midst of a fat day must be dealt with quickly before the situation gets out of hand. It is of the upmost importance that you, as a friend, must never become exasperated. You must lavish the victim with compliments when they try on every outfit. Despite this, you must never forget the key to genuine friendship. Telling your pal when her clothes don’t flatter her, as hard as that may be. As incredible as I think I’m looking in an outfit, if my friends tell me it looks unflattering, then I’ll whip that thing off as I always appreciate their opinions as the truth. You must never let your pal head out looking like a heifer. At the very least, give her a glass of bubbly. And get it to her quick. On a fat day, time is of the essence and it is in your best interest to act fast.
You Must Be Generous
Out of the three of us, Amy is the most selfless. She always ends up on the ‘bad seat’ at a meal, and on a holiday where there was only one double bed we let her sleep in the corridor for a whole week and get eaten by midges (funny at the time- bad now, sorry love!) But I know all of us is keen to do our bit. Whether than be as simple as buying a drink, offering to drive somewhere or offering up a house to sleep in after a night out. Little things keep a friendship going, and we should always endeavor to appreciate and recognise these.
You Must Be There For The Boy Drama
Boy drama. In what friendship group does this not exist? Whether it’s your ex’s new partner (no you’re defs better omg we swear it) or the guy you’re dating (omg he’s gorgeous but he’s totally punching with you) we always support and boost each others confidence. And it’s about being there for each other through it all, from the devastating break-ups, the butterfly fueled get-togethers and the hazy ‘somewhere in betweens.’ Oh, and those times where all three of you have absolutely no one and are resigned to being forever alone.
You Must Lend Your Clothes
You must always be prepared to lend and share your clothes. Even if you haven’t worn it yourself yet. Same with shoes, bags, jewelry, food…pretty much everything. Except boys.
You Must Always Be Their Instagram Husband
It is your duty, as a friend, to make your pal look incredible. You must always find her best angles, and you must always, always, fix the split in her fringe. You understand that if she asks you to take a picture, you must take, at the very least, twenty. You also understand, that when her nose looks big in all twenty, you must repeat the cycle all over again. And that is how you become her Instagram husband. Only then, can you reach true friend status.
You Must Always Make Time For Quality Nights Out
None of us are huge nightclub fans, but we favour getting together every month or so for proper drinks and dinner. A chance to really catch up. We love beautiful surroundings with a great atmosphere and our most recent favourite spot, La Taverna, seems to embody that. Opposite Belfast’s Europa hotel lies Fratellis new sophisticated Tavern, a city escape for an evening of Italian treats and treasures. We caught up over Venetian small plates, sharing pans, hand-crafted miniature desserts and an all Italian wine list to compliment. We love a cheeseboard. And we love a great glass of wine. And we love laughing. Catch up with your girls in fab surroundings.
You Must Always Have Your Own Language
Henno wee nuff owre u? If you don’t have your own stupid language that nobody really gets then are you even friends?!
And that, surely, is true friendship. What do you and your pals do that cements your friendship?